A Shift in Understanding Can Someone Change

Having a family member struggle with substances can be physically draining, emotionally exhausting and downright confusing. It can kick up a bunch of emotions that can be really crushing: shame, guilt, anger, betrayal, and the desire to isolate away from it all. Many family members can fall into quite a deep hole as they struggle […]

FREE Video Series

Several years ago, CMC spent some time making videos explaining concepts about treatment and behavior change that we felt would be helpful and beneficial for family members to have. We began this as an online CRAFT class, going over specific CRAFT concepts and referring back to the 20 Minute Guide, a guide for families about […]

Too Much Help!!

If you have kids, you might remember a time when s/he was young and you felt really worried about how best to take care of your vulnerable child. When you were making so many important decisions – like when you introduce solid foods, or how to handle their first fight with a friend – you […]

4 Steps to Improve Your Communication

One of the things we humans are really good at is language. We’re pretty unique among creatures in communicating incredible amounts of information to each other through our words. Language has helped us survive and thrive as a species, as it has brought us together and helped us work as a team to do things […]

How a Sandwich can Help You Connect

If you care about someone struggling with with their use of alcohol or other substances (or even behaviors like overeating or spending), odds are you have lots you wish you could say about the problem you are observing. Have you wanted to say to your husband, “you know, drinking this often is probably adding to […]

Detach No More

Lately, things around the world have been difficult, to say that least. There is political unrest and people are clamoring to feel that their voices are being heard. Many people feel like their chances of making change in their world are stalling, or even going backwards. In the midst of all this unrest, we think […]

Building Resilience Part II: How to Manage Your Emotions

Being resilient means being able to face adversity and cope well enough that you recover relatively quickly. In Part 1 of our resilience discussion in the March newsletter, we reviewed the ways that your perspective can actually mitigate some negative effects of stress. Now in Part 2, we’ll discuss the research that tells us about […]

Trying to Help Does not Make you an Enabler!

There are many ideas about substance use problems that are meant to help people understand things better but often have the unintended consequence of making people feel worse about themselves and more confused. The concept of “enabling” is most definitely in this camp. In the newly revised edition of the 20 Minute Guide, we added […]

Natural Consequences: The World’s Way to Give Feedback

If you are someone who would like to help a loved one change their relationship with substances, there are 4 essential tools you can learn. First, Helping through Understanding or thinking about issues of addiction differently using the science we now have available. Second, Helping with Self Care as you need to be able to survive […]

How To Avoid Conversation Traps

If you are someone who would like to help a loved one change their relationship with substances or to make any behavioral change, there are four essential tools you can learn. First, Helping through Understanding or thinking about issues of addiction differently using the science we now have available. Second, Helping by Taking Care of Yourself […]