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The Dangers of Secrecy . . . For a Prince

Prince was a beloved, lauded musician who will be terribly missed. He was known for his great musical gifts and tremendous stage presence. And he was also known for being substance-free: it was commonly recognized that he did not allow drinking, smoking, or drug use by anyone in his home or work. And yet recent

Communication is Hard!

Communication is hard. And, it’s a really necessary part of our lives. How else are we expected to get what we want from someone else? Or to ask someone to change their behaviors? Or let someone know that you really like what they’ve just done? We need to communicate with others, and sometimes, we are

The Pain of Shame: A Special Note to Parents

Helping Through Self-Care: The Special Case of Shame Shame and Self-Compassion: Opposite Worlds If you are a parent of someone with a substance use problem you may find that you have a small nagging voice (which can sometimes be a loud thundering judgement) that tells you: “It’s me…my daughter’s struggles with substances are my fault.”

All About: Different Types of Support and Treatment

Let’s meet Doug. Doug has a wife and a young child, a dog, and a job in IT. Doug’s a responsible dad, an attentive husband, and he even just got a promotion at work. He’s never had any trouble with substances in the past, and would describe himself as a casual drinker. On the surface,

Trying to Help Does not Make you an Enabler!

There are many ideas about substance use problems that are meant to help people understand things better but often have the unintended consequence of making people feel worse about themselves and more confused. The concept of “enabling” is most definitely in this camp. In the newly revised edition of the 20 Minute Guide, we added

Who Needs to “Hit Rock Bottom”?

We are almost positive you have heard someone say “he won’t change until he hits bottom.” Have you ever thought deeply about what is being conveyed in that statement? Slang for as bad as it gets, “hitting bottom” usually refers to the need to reach a place (or state of being) where one is so

Natural Consequences: The World’s Way to Give Feedback

If you are someone who would like to help a loved one change their relationship with substances, there are 4 essential tools you can learn. First, Helping through Understanding or thinking about issues of addiction differently using the science we now have available. Second, Helping with Self Care as you need to be able to survive

How To Avoid Conversation Traps

If you are someone who would like to help a loved one change their relationship with substances or to make any behavioral change, there are four essential tools you can learn. First, Helping through Understanding or thinking about issues of addiction differently using the science we now have available. Second, Helping by Taking Care of Yourself

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is an offshoot of Taoist and Buddhist practice which focuses on putting yourself in the present moment. While there is no one accepted definition of Mindfulness, one common one (and the one we will be using in here) is this: Mindfulness is being completely and utterly in the present moment, in a non-judgmental way.

Great Idea: BIGVision NYC offers Sober Activites for Young Adults

In many ways, Isaac Goldberg Volkmar was an all too classic example of those coping with addiction. Isaac always struggled to fit in, and like far too many people, he eventually turned to drugs and alcohol to get through the day. Staying sober, however, was a constant battle for Isaac, one which he tragically lost.